Soft, Feminine Makeup: Product Recommendations

Here are recommendations for makeup products for someone who wants to wear makeup but isn't into bright, in-your-face colors. These are soft, neutral and complimentary to most skin tones.

Base
I chose BB Cream, Tinted Moisturizer because most women don't need foundation. I don't have perfect skin. I have scars that are taking months to fade but what I have found is I look waaaaaay better if I apply concealer on the spots then put some powder on. It looks like I naturally have flawless skin and my face doesn't get oily and look like my makeup is melting off. If you wear full coverage foundation, give it a try and let me know how it works.

Budget: ELF BB Cream ($6)

Mid: I haven't tried any mid priced TM or BB creams. Only ELF and pricey ones =/

HE:  Nars Tinted Moisturizer ($42 at Sephora)

Eyeshadow Palettes

Budget: Covergirl Eye Enhancer 4 Shadow Kit in "Daring Nudes", "Fairy Tale" and "Prima Donna" ($4-$6 at your local drugstore)

Mid: Clinique A Black Honey Affair ($36 at Sephora)

HE: Guerlain  Écrin 6 Couleurs Eyeshadow Palette - Rue des Francs-Bourgeois ($90 at Sephora)

Mascara

Budget: Wet N Wild Mega Volume Mascara ($2 at local drugstore). This is the first brand of makeup that I've tried and I will always love. They produce great quality at amazing prices.

Mid: L'oreal Voluminous Mascara ($9 at CVS)

HE: Benefit They're Real Mascara ($23 at Sephora). Most would consider this mid range and not high end but $23 for a small tube of mascara is expensive to me LOL This is the one I currently use. The formula is pretty wet though so I suggest not blinking rapidly for a minute until it dries

Lips

Budget: NYX Megashine Lipglosses ($2-$5 depending on where you buy; CVS, Ulta or online)

^^ Since our lips tend to be pigmented, the brighter pinks still don't look very bright so you can get away with Tea Rose in an everyday look

Maybelline Baby Lips ($4). These are more like chapstick but certain flavors have a tint to them

Mid: Revlon Lip Butters ($6-$8)

^^They look scary lol but they are sheer versions of lipsticks. Like with the nyx lipglosses, since our lips are more pigmented, they don't show up as bright. My favorite is Brown Sugar :)

HE: Stila Lip Glaze ($22). They are pretty thick and goopy so use sparingly. A little goes a long way

Cheeks
I usually don't wear blush in the daytime but if you aren't wearing a bold eye or lip, color on your cheeks won't clash.

Budget: NYX blush in "Terracotta" or "Raisin" ($3 at cherryculture.com)

Mid: L'Oreal True Match Blush in "Sweet Ginger" ($7 at CVS)

HE: MAC blushes in "Sweet As Cocoa", "Raisin", or "Format" ($22 at MAC)

Sweet As Cocoa

Raizin

Format

You can also wear a little bronzer instead of blush. Covergirl queen collection has a few that are beautiful! They contain shimmer, which bring attention to the area so if you have large pores and/or acne on your cheeks I would stay away from shimmer and use a color that's matte or satin finish.

Did you notice the color palette for these products? Using soft colors on your face will give a natural and soft feminine look. Brown, pink, purple all look good on brown skin, no matter the hue. I left out eyeliner on purpose as I think it looks pretty harsh in the daytime. If you'd like to wear eyeliner, try a dark brown instead of black.If you have any questions or comments, please don't hesitate to leave a comment below. Thanks! 

Attaching your ego to frivolous things

One thing I have noticed about women is that our egos are commonly attached to things that aren't that important. If I had a nickel for every time a woman thought she was better than the next because she didn't wear makeup or has a certain body shape or a college degree, I would be a millionaire!

I think women do this because they have created standards and set of rules in their mind on how others should live their lives. They get on their pedestal and preach about how men like this or men don't like that or "women who do this are _____". In reality they aren't concerned at all about teaching or helping people improve their lives. They attach their body shape, skin condition, lack of plastic surgery or makeup or their relationship status to their self worth. Well, guess what? You are no better than the person who does the opposite.

I blog about femininity and feminine things. I have an interest in makeup, dating, romance, fitness, being a homemaker, etc but I don't dislike women who do not care about this. I believe we all have a place in this world and if we are all the same life would be terribly boring. That may sound corny but that's the way I was raised. The smallest ant is no less significant than a human being, we have our purpose in life. Our Creator made me a biological woman for a reason and I intend to embrace it as much as I can in this modern world that tries it's best to convince me that I'm wrong.

To the women, especially BW, if you feel you do not need makeup then GOOD FOR YOU. I am glad that you are confident but you aren't more "real" than the next women who wears cosmetics. Sorry to break it to you. The amount of makeup you don't wear does not represent your character. You may be more natural but your attitude and judgement of others is an uglier trait than the acne scars someone else is covering up. Now THAT is what is unattractive to men. And when women don't wear makeup or wear perfume, it doesn't mean they don't care about themselves.

I know it's impossible to get all women to stop attacking and judging one another but I just had to get this off my chest. I have seen it all my life and it has always bugged me. Especially in this day and age where material things seem to be more important than human beings. If you do not have an expensive car, designer clothes or other unnecessary stuff than you are not "normal". I don't know about you but I would rather be around people with morals and values than people who don't. I'd rather have a best friend with acne and a kind heart than one with beautiful skin and is a backstabber.

ALSO, I have noticed BW go out of their way to diss women of other races. You are making yourself look bad. You know how people think we are jealous of them? Well, that's how you look when you go out of your way to attack another woman. What's the point of going to a WW's youtube channel and saying that we BW age better? Who are you trying to convince? We know that our melanin affords us to look more youthful, there's no need to brag about it. The world can see our beauty, we don't need to shout it from the rooftop. The things that I have heard from WM who date BW is that not only do we stay youthful but we are more down to earth and humble than most women nowadays. Being humble is an attractive trait.The goal is to be confident in yourself, not bring other people down.

Black women and the pursuit of excellence

The world is turning at a faster pace every year and we need to keep up! In order to have stability, we need to learn how to adapt to change. Don't get left behind, sis. Stay on pace with the world. Increase and expand your skill set.

As humans, we are made to absorb information. While we aren't computers and can't remember each and every detail, it is important to have a basic understanding of a variety of topics as well as experiences. Who only wants to be good at one thing? What kind of conversations can you have with people if you are only knowledgeable on one particular subject?

Here is a list I came up with. If you have any to add-on, leave a comment :)

1. Analyze your unique life experiences and determine how they can help you
2. Explore new hobbies
3. Discover new vessels of art/creativity (beside hip-hop, music videos and urban fiction books because they have shown that they are not for US. They depict us as ugly, gold digging, unwanted, crass and vulgar, struggling women. We can do better, there are many more things to watch, listen to and read that will help us, not hinder)
4. Try a "non-black" sport
5. Learn how to network. The unemployment rate for Black college students is twice as high, and lack of networking skills was cited as the main reason why. Don't let that be you.
6. Rack up some accomplishments (an award, certificate of completion, etc)
7. Travel, even if it isn't far and exotic. Take baby steps :)
8. Learn about other parts of the world
9. Try new cuisines
10. Develop your body
11. Adopt a healthier lifestyle, free of alcohol, drugs, fast food
12. Get an education. If you already have, continue education! Take advanced classes, get an extra certification, etc. Like I said, every year the world turns faster and new technologies and scientific theories are produced. Learn how to code, use a computer or other gadget or even a new language! You can never be over-educated.
13. Volunteer